Dear Renee,

I saw you on NBC's The Other Half recently and you were discussing commitment phobic men. I'm wondering if I am one of these types. My friends say I have a problem!

Commitment Phobic

Dear Commitment Phobic,

So you think you're a commitment-phobic? Are you a man that only lasts 2-3 months and then moves on to the next bigger, better deal? Let's see if you fit the bill.

Thanks to some insight from my book Love Mechanics and interviews with hundreds of singles, I listed some of the types of men that women watch out for.

1- The High Speed Chaser: A man that falls in and out of love quickly. Declares love early on then gets restless and breaks up with a woman for the smallest reason. Generally, a man does this because he needs to boost his self-esteem by moving on to his next conquest... and fast!

2- The Bigger Better Deal: A man who always needs the exact list of qualities he is looking for in a wife and as soon as a woman doesn't meet one of the requirements, he looks for a replacement. This man has unrealistic expectations and always believes there is a better deal for him with the next girl.

3- A Passenger Still Remaining in Your Vehicle: A man whose ex is still inside his heart, but is looking for someone to quickly replace his lost love. The women he dates never get all of him because there is no room in his heart for the past and future until he gets over the ex.

4- Out of Gas: A walking wounded man who is so badly burned that he is scared of being hurt again. In order to protect himself, he never fully commits to a relationship, as he believes there is too much risk involved in commitment.

And of course, here are some signs that the woman you're dating is not willing to commit yet, or is just commitment phobic!

What does commitment mean to you? Both parties involved need to be on the same page about this issue; do not assume anything or you might get led on.

Renee

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